Centerstone Reminds Families To Give The Gift Of Tradition

(BEDFORD) – Every year about this time Kristine Nunn, LMFT, at Centerstone, is reminded how much effort goes into the holiday season—particularly for parents.

Kristine Nunn, LMFT, is the Manager of Child and Family Services at Centerstone, a not-for-profit health system providing mental health and substance use disorder treatments to people of all ages.

“We spend an enormous amount of energy making certain our families, particularly our children, experience a holiday season that is full of tradition and warm memories,” Nunn said. “Many of us have warm feelings
about the holidays and are driven to create the same warmth for those we love the most. It is through the creation of traditions that we experience the bond of family, the spirit of giving, the fulfillment of sacrifice, and concern for those less fortunate. As a result, we are left richer and more firm in our values.”

With this in mind, Nunn offered some ideas on traditions and activities families have used in the past to enhance the value of the holidays for their children and loved ones.

Help Children Select Gifts for Loved Ones

A key developmental milestone in childhood includes children learning, identifying, and appropriately expressing their feelings. Therapists call this “a feeling vocabulary.” This feeling vocabulary is just as important as a spelling vocabulary. Helping children understand that gift-giving is an expression of care and love is a wonderful skill to grow. This helps them express their natural love for family and friends in a manner that is healthy.

Ideas may include crafting a personalized tree ornament or holiday card, a
framed photograph or a poem written by the child.

Create Holiday Moments that Foster a Sense of Belonging

Did you know that a sense of belonging is a human need, just like the need for food and water? And that creating this sense of belonging for children is often done in small ways?

Nunn says, indeed, a child learns and develops a sense of identity through their relationships and experiences at home, family interactions, and their environment.

“A sense of belonging into a healthy family system is a very powerful buffer
against childhood stress and even trauma,” Nunn said. “During the holidays, parents and caregivers can be both deliberate and spontaneous in their efforts to create holiday moments where a child has the opportunity to feel like they belong. Sharing a special family outing together to look at holiday lights, baking cookies together, or dressing up in matching colors and taking that ever-embarrassing family holiday photo can be powerful belonging-builders for children.”

Give Children a Role in the Holiday Preparations

Visceral experiences — those experiences that provide deep emotional nurture — play an important role in our childhood memories. Good childhood memories provide lifelong encouragement, even during the darkest of our days. Giving children a role in holiday preparations, such as assisting with baking, present wrapping, or decorating, provides an intuitive experience.

“Beyond providing them with a sense of belonging, this will elicit responsibility, cooperation, and independent functioning, and will help them internalize these traditions modeled in your household,” said Nunn. ” Select a family service project or volunteer as a family at a holiday community event.

Engaging in service and volunteering is a great way to participate in your local community, honor the value of diversity, and teach children about service to others.

“Much of the holidays can be self-focused, but turning our eyes outward toward others can help us balance this out,” said Nunn.

Service ideas may include providing gifts for a needy child of similar age to your child, adopting a family by providing a meal for them, adopting a “grandparent” at a convalescent home, or volunteering at a community event that holds a different tradition than your own family tradition.

Whatever your family traditions, I sincerely hope that through your holiday activities your family will grow and experience the peace, joy, love, hope that makes the holiday season special for so many.

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