(UNDATED) – November is Military Family Appreciation Month, and supporting our military children is critical.The pressures of perfectionism and the concerns children and teens face in today’s world are unlike the experiences many adults had during their childhood.
A recent analysis by researchers highlights another concerning issue – the number of children and teens who have visited emergency rooms for suicidal thoughts and suicide attempts doubled between 2007 and 2015, according to data from the National Hospital Ambulatory Medical Care Survey.
Within the military community, these challenges can be amplified, especially for children, who can sometimes face different psychological and social challenges in light of their close family connection to America’s heroes.
“Military children have life experiences and make sacrifices that their peers and many adults cannot relate to. These distinctive experiences often increase their need for our support” says Kristine Nunn, Children and Family Services Manager for Centerstone.
Get to Know Them
Children of military personnel often carry a unique weight, emotionally. Experiences such as parental separation, frequent moves, friendships that are disrupted due to moving, and worries about deployment of parents can bring a sense of isolation to the child. So reaching out and simply being interested in them can go a long way toward curbing feelings of isolation.
When getting to know a military child, pay attention to their interests so that you can offer connections to applicable groups. It is helpful to understand their learning style to give you more direction as to what kind of group you should connect them with.
Public expressions of gratitude for our nation’s veterans and active military members are rightfully common across our country. However, let us not forget the bravery and service of our military family members—especially children—and build strong connections with them.
Listen to Their Feelings
According to the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration, children of deployed military personnel have more school-, family, and peer-related emotional difficulties, compared with national samples. Military children have watched mom or dad leave time and again. They may experience anxiety and depression when a parent is gone. When the entire family is back home together, they often worry about the next deployment.
It is important that military children have a way to explore their feelings, discuss their concerns and develop healthy coping skills. If there is a military child in your life, offer yourself as someone who’s always ready to listen, and connect them with others who can listen and guide them.
The fundamental principle to put others before ourselves is within the fabric of every military community. However, the same selfless traits admired about our service members and veterans can contribute to the challenges that make it difficult for them and their loved ones to ask for help when they need it. We believe that seeking help does not make a person weak – in many cases, it’s the first step to healing.
Military children in the United States deserve ongoing thanks and support for what they give our country by giving up certain family and social norms. We owe them and our service members more than just a debt of gratitude for the sacrifices they have made. We need to provide them with the support and resources they need to lead healthy lives.
Centerstone offers services to the entire military family through a national network of licensed, well-trained, military culturally competent providers. Through partnerships with Cohen Veterans Network and Supportive Services for Veteran Families, we deliver care for a range of needs, from mental health counseling to permanent housing support. Call 866-726-
4560 to find out more about how Centerstone serves military families.